Family mediation is where a professionally trained mediator helps you sort out arrangements for children and finances when you separate. They can also help when arrangements change as children grow.

Mediation means you stay in control. You will not be expected to do anything against your wishes. A mediator will help you work out a solution which works for you both and help you make an agreement.

Mediation is less stressful and quicker than going to court and is much less expensive. In some cases, Legal Aid is available if you qualify.

MIAM – “A very good place to start”

A MIAM is a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. A Mediator will help you consider the options available to you when separating. They will give you relevant information that might help you consider whether you could solve issues outside of Court.

The Court will expect you to attend a MIAM and this can help and support you look at a kinder and more cost effective way of solving problems rather than going to Court.


Mediation can be free if you are on benefits and have limited savings. If you qualify for free mediation then the other person involved also gets one free session


The Family Mediation Voucher Scheme is designed to support parents and provide help to resolve their disputes outside of Court. To support this, a financial contribution of up to £500 towards the cost of Mediation in children’s matters is provided if you do not qualify for free mediation through Legal Aid. You can find a Mediator through the Family Mediation Council Find your local mediator – Family Mediation Council.

Child Inclusive Mediation

Youtube video here Tom’s Story including information about child inclusive Mediation

Hey there! Ever heard of mediation?

It’s like having a friendly referee and helper when two people have a bit of a squabble.

Let me break it down for you:

What’s Mediation? Okay, imagine you and your friend are having a bit of a disagreement.

Mediation is like inviting a cool friend (we call them a mediator) to help sort things out.

The Cool Mediator is like the superhero of fairness.

They don’t pick sides; they’re just there to make sure both of you get a chance to talk and share your thoughts. Fair play is their motto!

Mediators try to help you and your parents when they fall out and cannot agree things like where you will live; what time you will spend in each of their homes.

How it Works: First, the mediator chats with each of your parents separately to understand what’s going on. No secrets spilled – it’s all super confidential. The mediator takes to both of them taking turns, so they hear both sides of the story. It’s like a talking relay race, and everyone gets a chance.

Then it is brainstorming Time: everyone comes up with different ideas to solve the problem with the mediator as guide.

Your voice

You can be involved as well with some special time to talk to the mediator on your own or you can leave it to your mum and dad with the mediator if you prefer.

Everyone tries to come up with the coolest Solution which suits everyone, especially you and then the mediator helps write down what was decided, so everyone knows what is happening next.

It’s all about teamwork, being heard, and finding solutions together.

So if your parents do not live together anymore and they are not getting on very well mediation is a good way to try to make things a bit better.

Webpage on Child Inclusive Mediation by Marcus Farrey, Children First Mediation, Bury.